As I write this, my back yard is torn to shreds due to the addition of a new swimming pool. I’m super excited about the idea of having a swimming pool but the reality is – I don’t have it yet. All I have is a big hole in my back yard with trenches and mounds of dirt.
In the process of digging the pool we made sure that part of the existing landscaping would be spared. Before all the digging began, I would sit in the back yard and look at the flowers and feel my soul rise up in their beauty. Those same flowers are still there, but now they’re surrounded by mounds of dirt.
So, I get to make the choice of what I want to focus on. The flowers or the dirt.
How many other situations come up where I get to exercise that same choice?
My mom is dying of cancer. She is 89, lived a long life and now she’s dying. I am naturally sad and could look at this and ask why cancer? Why now? Why does her life have to end so painfully?
My mom and I haven’t always had the best relationship. I’ve spent a lot of years processing and forgiving both parties. And now she’s dying just when we had begun to have a good relationship.
So, here I am again, faced with that same choice. Do I could choose to be bitter or resentful, or be grateful that I got to experience a good mother/daughter relationship in this lifetime.
I would love to hear from you! Please leave a comment below and tell me if you are in the middle of a situation where you can see only one perspective and what it would be like to shift it slightly.